EDINBURG, United Kingdom—Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is featured in a new BBC article by Rowenna Hoskin, "Having Multiple Partners Isn't All About Sex - It's Honesty, Logistics and a Good Calendar," where she offers clinical perspective on non-monogamous relationships, a topic she feels is often shaped by myth, stigma, and narrow assumptions.
In the piece, Bisbey defined consensual non-monogamy in direct and accessible terms. She said, "Consensual non-monogamy is when people in a romantic relationship agree that they will not be exclusive partners with each other, and that in some form, they are able to have other partners."
Bisbey added, "Now, often when people give this definition, they talk about sexual partners. That's not always the case, there are people who have very deep emotional relationships that don't include sex that they would still include under this rubric."
Bisbey also pushed back on one of the most persistent cultural assumptions around polyamory. She said, "[That] is utter rubbish. I've been in a non-monogamous relationship for 17 years with my now-husband and 10 years with my other partner."
Bisbey stressed that non-monogamy is not casual, effortless or a shortcut around existing relationship issues. "It's also not a good thing to go along with because your partner wants it. If you are insecure this will make you more insecure," she said, adding that non-monogamy "is not a good solution to problems."
Bisbey's perspective underscores that healthy polyamory depends less on sexual freedom than on communication, honesty, stability, and intention.
Read the full article at BBC.com.
To learn more about Bisbey’s work, visit DrLoriBethbisbey.com and her Linktree.
