LOS ANGELES—Model, actress and activist GoAskAlex recently wrote a blog post for ParlourTalk.com that openly details her struggles, adjustments and everyday triumphs as a person with a disability.
The article, "Adjusting to My Sexual Body With an Ostomy," draws from her lived experiences prior to her surgery in 2019, and how her sex life—on and off screen—has changed in both positive and negative ways since the addition of her ostomy.
“I can’t say that it is easier now ... the journey hasn’t ended, and I’ve come to realize that it never will," she says. "During every sexual encounter I find myself overly-conscious of the way that my body differs from the ‘conventional’—it’s not something that I forget, but instead must choose to accept each time I am intimate.
“Ultimately, I have learned that there is no destination, no beginning and end; there is only the continual journey of radical self-acceptance. Some days are harder than others, and at times I feel as though I am treading water. When I feel this way, I try to think of how far I have come since my surgery, and I make an effort to remember that progress is not always linear.
“To anyone who is struggling with their sexuality amidst a disability or chronic illness, I would say this: it is a journey of ups and downs, and as long as you do your best to be kind to yourself in the process, then you are on the right track.
“Showcasing my disability in porn isn’t just a revolutionary act, it’s an empowering act of rebellion that aims to emphasize disabled folks’ lack of representation onscreen and in adult media, and why I choose not to hide my ostomy in my videos. My goal is to normalize bodies like mine in this industry.”
Alex was excited to have the opportunity to write for ParlourTalk.com, as the blog gives a voice to people with impactful personal stories around topics that may not be addressed in mainstream media.
“The more we interact with people who experience life differently than we do, the better we are able to understand, accept, embrace and include them," she commented, "and I’m thankful to Parlour Talk for giving me a platform to celebrate diversity in all of its amazing forms.”
