LOS ANGELES—Pleasure-based sex education platform Beducated has highlighted valuable lessons the LGBTQ+ community can teach straight people about the art of intimate exploration.
This Pride Month, Beducated focuses on queer sex, where studies have acknowledged a significantly reduced orgasm gap in lesbian-partnered sex in comparison to straight-partnered sex.
Five key mindsets of queer sexuality include:
1. There’s no "right way" to have sex
Many believe that sex must include vaginal penetration to be complete. However, queer sex shows us that orgasms can occur through cunnilingus or blowjobs without making penetration the main event.
Explained Beducated CEO/founder Mariah Freya, "There is this outdated misconception that sex is only complete when there is penetration involved. That can be a problem because it makes penetration the main event. However, we know that people with vulvas require more than just penis-in-vagina action to reach an orgasm."
2. Your gender doesn't define whether you're "submissive" or "dominant"
Society often imposes rigid gender roles in sexual dynamics, expecting straight men to be dominant and straight women to be submissive. Queer sex challenges these norms.
Said Freya, "Why let gender define how we express ourselves in the bedroom? Instead, think about the role you find most pleasurable, expectations be damned."
3. Toys, Gadgets, and Gizmos Are Your Friends
Sex toys and accessories are not just for replacing body parts; they can enhance sexual experiences significantly.
Noted Freya, "Lesbian folks are often asked, 'Don’t you miss dick?' Cringe aside, sex sans penis doesn’t mean you have to skip the penetration, there are dildos for that! Beyond replacing body parts, toys, lubes and accessories can elevate sex to a whole new level."
4. Sexual Desire Doesn’t Look the Same for Everyone
Sexuality exists on a spectrum, influencing not just who the people are attracted to, but how they experience that attraction. For instance, straight men can enjoy anal stimulation without compromising their sexual orientation.
Said Freya, "People with penises are blessed with this small gland called a prostate, which has the potential to lead to next-level orgasms. For some ridiculous reason, we’ve decided as a society to completely ignore it because prostate stimulation involves getting close to – gasp – the anal region. If only straight men could let go of these outdated principles and explore their prostate more. Imagine having something that powerful, and not using it because of prejudice. The world is upside down."
5. The secret to mind-blowing orgasms: knowing your stuff
Queer vulva owners are more likely to orgasm during sex than their straight counterparts, not because of sexual orientation, but due to greater sexual knowledge.
Shared Freya, "You don’t need to have a vulva to know how to turn one on; all you need to do is educate yourself. Getting familiar with vulva anatomy means you can find the g-spot and cervix, for example. Sure, clitoral stimulation is great, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg. The same goes for male body anatomy, you want to know where the perineum is, or how to approach hand jobs when your partner is (or isn’t) circumcised."
According to Beducated’s Decoding Desire survey from earlier this year, key findings revealed that a majority of Beducated users reported being "satisfied" or "very satisfied" with their sex lives. In contrast, only about one-third of non-subscribers reported the same satisfaction levels. This underscores the importance of comprehensive sex education in enhancing sexual wellness and satisfaction.
Read more about the survey results here.
To learn more, visit Beducated.com to discover an insightful censor-free variety of 100-plus pleasure-based sex education courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration, with subscriptions starting at $9.99 a month for an annual pass. Non-subscribers can also explore the service with a 24-hour free trial.
