Queen Colleen Is Living Her Best Life

LOS ANGELES—“It’s like straight people with basketball,” says Queen Colleen, the most fabulous person in Central New Jersey. “In the kink community, you can do spanking scenes with your friends and not worry about being emotionally or romantically involved.”

Queen Colleen, who launched her AVNStars account last year and describes the platform “as if Twitter and Onlyfans got together and had a child,” is a rising star in the queer kink megalopolis stretching from New York City through Jersey to Philadelphia.

But that area is not a monolith, and what is true in Philly might not be true in New York City, much less communities on the West Coast. Queen Colleen herself similarly evades simple descriptions.

Unlike many members of “the scene,” Queen Colleen didn’t always know she was queer until after high school, but when it hit, it hit big.

“I show up to a munch (a gathering of BDSM aficionados usually held in the most vanilla of public places, like a diner) in six-inch heels and a huge wig and no one has any doubt about who I am,” she says. “I’m very good at connecting with people; I didn’t have a period where I had reservations.”

That’s because Queen Colleen came out as an adult, after high school.

“I didn’t have an awkward period of coming out,” she says, “and (most of) my family and friends have been supportive. My parents are cool, and my experience is that people are happy for me, though the friend group I had in middle school has slowly faded away.”

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Queen Colleen has a unique perspective on the scene, as she came from another.

“I played ice hockey and football in high school,” she says. “I was a jock. It wasn’t until I was 19 that I started exploring my bi-curiosity. I’ve got good memories from high school sports and it has taught me a lot, like teamwork and punctuality; it’s kind of funny being in the queer world where a lot of people had bad memories of high school and are very individualistic.”

Queen Colleen respects the fact that, for many of her peers, high school in general and dealing with “jock culture” in particular were often very traumatic times. “And I respect that and would never invalidate that,” she says. “But my experience was very different in high school, to the (extent) that I feel I can bring a lot of positives from my teen years to where I am now.”

Perhaps because of her team perspective (“But don’t get me wrong,” she says, “I stick out like a sore thumb in my humongous wig and cartoony eyebrows”), Miss Colleen is aware of inequities in the BDSM/queer community, like club nights that are heteronormative or feature gender-based pricing.

“Because I’m a switch, on a given day I might be anything,” she says.

For example, to her “Queendom,” Queen Colleen is a sassy dominant to her followers. But she also plays submissive to dominant women, such as Goddess Nikki Kit.

“And, just like at a club where there might be gender ratios,” she says, sometimes fans have a hard time seeing that both sides of Queen Colleen are equally valid.

“I think it’s important to share my experiences,” she says, “because even if I feel that I’m unique in a way, I could help someone who is still in the closet.”

And, with regard to that basketball analogy, “Maybe straight people can look at the way they play team sports—passing the ball and encouraging their teammates—and get an insight into the way the queer community works.”

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