Yes, there is life after porn after all. At least for retired Wicked contract girl Sydnee Steele there is.
Being an adult star doesn’t exactly prepare one for too many allied fields, but Steele, still long, lean, luscious and shapely in all the right places, has found one: author. And that has led her to another – sex coach.
Steele has penned “Seducing Your Woman,” a 112-page sexual self-help book for men recently published by Canada’s Burman Books, and it’s re-invigorated her.
A year out of Porn Valley, life is good for Sydnee Steele. And being the thoroughly classy individual that she always has been, she’s most deserving.
AVN: So what’s new with Sydnee Steele?
Steele: I'm having a good time. Life is really fun. “Seducing Your Woman,” my new book just came out in March. We had a launch party up in Toronto. This is their second set of books they're doing. Kind of a whole self-help series. The publisher, found me by chance, and it was interesting that right at that time that he found me — the day that (Wicked Pictures publicist) Daniel (Metcalf) was moving to North Carolina from Wicked — Daniel forwarded me an email. And said, “I don't know what you think of this, but this guy seems pretty good to me. He's interested in you doing a book,” and I'm like, “You're kidding me!” I was thinking about doing something along the lines of this topic. Totally coincidental, and the book kind of speaks about that's how I look at life. Things just kind of, you summon things and they show up at your doorstep.” My book is completely G rated. It's kind of funny that I'm the porn star writing a G-rated book.
AVN: Do you have a writing background? Had you ever done any writing before?
Steele: No, not at all. I got interested in it some time ago. Just started researching on my own. I ordered (writing) DVDs and read and understood. It seemed that once I decided that that was what I was gonna do, the flow came thru me. It was really neat how I could just write pieces and show them to friends, they'd be like this is really good. And people I noticed, they were surprised at my ability to put something down on paper.
AVN: Did you find the writing process came naturally?
Steele: So easy. Really good, yeah.
AVN: You’re also working as a sex therapist?
Steele: Yes. Sex coaching. This idea popped up, it was interesting. I all of a sudden realized there were some girlfriends that found out about my book and they were extremely curious. All of a sudden I became someone they felt comfortable asking questions. They knew that I had a history in porn, but I was simply just me to them, I was just one of the girls. I started doing women's groups about techniques. And how to really, if you're desiring something out of your partner, to really look within yourself, and then you start creating it within you. And you can get that reaction out of your partner. So it's kind of techniques, how to use your eyes, how to be that sexual diva. Blow job techniques. It's about do you have a desire of somewhere you want to go sexually within your relationship or finding someone to get there. And I help them make a map.
AVN: Is this strictly for women?
Steele: No, I see men too.
AVN: It's a strictly speaking type of thing?
Steele: Yeah. There's no hands-on training.
AVN: Do you have to be credentialed to be doing what you're doing?
Steele: No, sex coaching is an open field. It's not even a defined thing; it's kind of like life coaching.
AVN: So you have another book in the works?
Steele: I'm working on a project yeah. It's very big.
AVN: You want to talk about it?
Steele: I don't, it's premature.
AVN: Is it a writing project?
Steele: It is a writing project. At least 220 pages.
AVN: Are you completely out of porn now?
Steele: Yeah. I'm not a talent actress right now.
AVN: Do you think that's a permanent move?
Steele: I do. I'm so happy with my experience, and I'm so happy with everything, how it went down, it wouldn't make sense to try it again. That would be stepping back into a world. (Wicked director and former Steele love interest) Michael Raven recently offered me an acting role. I'm like, “You know, I'm so flattered you asked, thank you. But I think right now, that's not where I'm at.”
AVN: So you left porn because it was just basically your time.
Steele: I totally fell in love with my boyfriend too. Sex where you're in star fields. I always had good sex, really good sex, but there was a chemistry connection. I noticed I also wasn't as excited to show up at set. I noticed I was tired of it. In interviews and stuff, they'd ask how long is this gonna last? And I always said when I stopped having fun, and I kept my word to myself. I stopped having fun. There was no pressure from my boyfriend to not work, it was just the next step.
AVN: How long have you been out of porn for?
Steele: One year from Wicked April 1.
AVN: What was your last movie?
Steele: My last movie was Pillow Talk. Devinn Lane directed it. I just worked with girls.
AVN: That's always a sign that you're ready to move on.
Steele: It is. That's a big one for me too. I was always so balls on, “Yes, let's go.”
AVN: Was it tough leaving Wicked?
Steele: I love everybody there. I met with (Wicked owner) Steve Orenstein, and said it was time for me to move around. He's an amazing person that allows everyone their freedom to create whatever you want to create within the adult industry. That's why I have such respect for him. I couldn't say enough about that company.
“Seducing Your Woman,” co-written by hypnotherapist Luke Chao, can be purchased through Burmanbooks.com or Sydnee’s site, thelovegeneration.com. Two sample passages follow:
Women are fun. Play with them!
Play with women, almost like you’re kids on a playground. There’s a lot of love, friendship and fun in playing. When you can get a woman into a child-like mood, she’ll fall in love with you. By making her playful, you remove her from the fears and anxieties of everyday life.
Make her feel wonderful.
If you give her the best of both worlds — the Prince Charming and the bad boy — she’ll adore you for it. Be constantly loving and faithful, but at the same time, also be adventurous and exciting. Surprise your woman. Don’t always tell her where you’re going. Give her the mystery and unpredictability she desires, along with the loving kindness that makes her feel wonderful.
Steele appeared in more than 300 adult titles from 1997-2005, most notably such Wicked Pictures features as Dream Quest, Hercules, and Euphoria, for which she won AVN’s Best Actress – Video Award in 2002. Her final title was Wicked’s Pillow Talk, released last year.
