BUCHAREST, Romania—Recently the performers of Studio 20, which bills itself as the first cam studio franchise the world, addressed the question of whether welcoming is cheating.
The models discuss the nuances of that questions, talking about whether the idea of cheating applies to only those who pay the performers and enjoy their services, or those who performer in front of the camera as well. Their responses to the issue are as follows:
Ok, so I admit, this is an awkward situation because it's a fine line between these things—but probably one you don't want to cross if you're in a relationship. But let's check it out what truly happens when you must cope with this kind of situation. You're in love with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but you met someone online that changed the way of seeing things. What's the next step? You can always confront your beloved one and tell the truth & you can go on with your little game and make sure that nobody will find out.
First of all, there are a lot of very obvious things that count as cheating: having sex with someone else than your currently partner, making out, being active on Tinder, even sexting. But what about everything that gray areas in between? I'm talking about watching porn, of course. Or going to a strip club, or paying to watch a camgirl.
For those who think virtual reality is only for the rich, think again.
What happens when you are engaged in an exclusive relationship and you can't stop this addictive thing: paying a camgirl in order to have fun with when your girlfriend isn't around? It depends what your girlfriend considers cheating. Different people have different boundaries.
In fact, there is one study that claims that 22 percent of women do actually consider watching porn the same thing as cheating. Of course, when they aren't involved in this action. The explanation is simple to them: because porn can become excessive for some guys. They tend to act different after watching porn, and the relationship is affected. And if a camgirl can make you hornier that your girlfriend and wife does, Houston, we have a problem! If she catches you watching porn, it can bruise her ego, since she might not feel like she can satisfy you on her own, or that sex isn't enough. But if she catches you watching a private camgirl? That might feel a lot more like straight up cheating. That’s because camgirls are a bit different than a random video you’d find online. Some people are very judgmental with the adult entertainers, stigmatizing the girls that work as camgirls.
However, the biggest difference is the level of intimacy.
If you’re paying for a private performance, many women might question how that’s different from going to a strip club without her knowing, or meeting up with a girl without telling her.
This type of interaction either via chatting, dual camming, you sending her pics, etc... where you become an active participant, is a sign of you cheating her. And that’s where it becomes a very grey area.
Cybersex is not merely a conversation about sex, but a form of sexual encounter involves experiences typical of other encounters, such as sexual arousal, masturbation, orgasm, and satisfaction. Did you know that 60% of people having cybersex affairs do not consider it to be infidelity?
But how exactly are you supposed to know if she’s cool with it? Well, you can be smart about that from the begining of your relationship: both of you need to establish some boundaries.
First, get to know all the things that are counted as cheating - for both of us. Then, maybe start with her thoughts on porn and see how she feels about you watching it. If she’s not cool with that, then it’s not likely in a million years she’ll be cool with camgirls, lol. You must be firm and let her know your intentions.
Furthermore, if you consider that you won't be able to watch a private show because of her boundaries and that bothers you, it might be time to reconsider whether or not you’re ready for a commitment in the first place.
More than that, if her idea is this: porn is one thing, but watching it live and having the ability to interact with the person on screen IS DEFINITELY considered as cheating, you can't really fight for your right of managing your time spent online.
In the end, she will end up saying that just because there's no physical contact doesn't make it okay.
In my opinion is super important to get things clear: first, it depends of how personal the relationship is. Then, if you and that specific camgirl have a connection (it's hard to say that camgirls want to be a part of your life, tho), this counts as cheating and you're being kicked out from your real life relationship.
My advice for you is to have a friendly debate about the many forms virtual infidelity could take nowadays. For example, some married couples still keep Tinder on their phones.
For example, I will try to recreate a husband - wife situation and some clear boundaries: No live porn interaction, unless together and agreed upon. No secret video, swiping, or chatting flirtations that would constitute emotional infidelity. And no following a particular performer where interaction (financial or otherwise) is possible.
When setting such ground rules, it’s a good idea to know your partner’s likes and dislikes. This helps set boundaries, while also allowing them to still get their kicks.
If you think that you can't spice up your relationship/sex life, please, reconsider this. You don't need a camgirl to be your darkest secret and you don't HAVE TO lie about your wishes.
As for us, camgirls, there is a saying: you get used to this life and it becomes part of who you are. So no men in this world can take that from us. We are open minded and FREE, so if this is our path, it's fine for our potential partners, too. We can talk about our day without giving so many details about members or about what they fantasize. As a camgirl, you don't meet these people, there's no connection whatsoever beside the one that you allow, on screen. No addresses, phone numbers or email addresses.
Being a cam performer is just a profession, you just have steamy dates in front of the camera. When you got home, your boyfriend is there and you can snuggle and be his lady on and on. Excepting the time spent in your bedsheets, haha.
